Ringing in yet another New Year

2011 is upon us here in Germany, and I for one am ready for tonight to be over. I have to admit that my optimism is at a low tonight reading everyone's facebook updates about their plans with their friends and families, and especially their husbands, but all the same I am happy for everyone that is getting their time with their loved ones, and really hoping that they are not taking their time together for granted. Don't get me wrong, although I am not in the partying mood, I am all for ringing in the new year. Although the end of this deployment isn't looking as close as I had anticipated and hoped with the dropping of the ball fast approaching, I am able to see past the hurt that I have been trying to numb myself to and try to see the good in it. Its already been a month, and we haven't really been doing much other than hanging out at home, so I am just wrapping my mind around how much faster the time will go once we can get out and about and start to enjoy our days a little more. I can imagine that our super soldier will be much happier hearing about our day when it includes more than waking up and eating breakfast. I am looking forward to getting back to the gym, because that is what helped me the most when he was at basic and AIT. I am excited to see how quickly I can get back into shape, and even more excited for when the weather is nice enough for me to be able to go take a real RUN. First I need to get the ipod fixed, anyone that knows me and my love for music knows that I made a HUGE sacrifice letting Brandon take my ipod to douchebagistan with him, leaving me with no jogging companion ;). I am looking Forward to little things to make the time pass, like planning Gaby's big three, making the little holidays fun for the girls and Brandon (I'm pretty sure all the extra money around here is going to care packages). Although a lot of sympathy is being sent our way for getting a REALLY late R&R it doesn't really bother me. We will be so close to the end that it will just make it easier for us to let him go back knowing there are going to be single digit weeks left until he gets home, and that will just give me enough time to get the kids and house ready to welcome daddy home for good and celebrate all the holidays next year, which will be so amazing after knowing what its like to NOT have him here, it will make us appreciate him even more than we actually do. I am also looking forward to making a few trips back to the states to visit the family and friends that mean so much to us and our girls. 2011 is going to more than likely be one of the hardest years of my life, but I am willing to go head to head with my fears, knowing that I have God, trust, faith, hope, and love on my side and make this year as good as it can be for the sake of my family. I am thankful for all that I have in my life and taking nothing for granted, so here's to the new year, and it passing in a way so that I miss nothing and forget nothing, but so that it also passes with ease and quickness, so that next year I won't have time for blogging, because I will be busy entertaining friends, family, and kissing my soldier and girls when the ball drops. HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE

Twas the night before Christmas

Its Christmas Eve, but it doesn't feel like it. We let the girls open their gifts last night because you never know how well skype is going to work. They are loving their gifts, especially the piano. It has been a really long day. I keep thinking about all the things I would be doing if Brandon were here. I'd be putting the finishing touches on some holiday desserts, helping him wrap some last minute gifts (because he always gets too much for the kids), and probably listening to Christmas music. I didn't even download any this year because you may as well call me the Grinch. Its hard knowing that they have him there, knowing that I need him here so much more. I would love to have the help with putting the kids to bed, and just being able to fall asleep with my feet on his lap while he plays yet another season of madden. I keep telling myself that next year will be better, because he will be home for Christmas next year, and even though this is Dru's first, she will actually be excited and into it next year. I already have so many plans and its helping a lot to make me get through this. New recipes for food and gift ideas are racking up because I want to give Brandon and the girls the best day ever. I am glad to say that I am 100% sure that I am not as selfish as I used to be. I know this because I am not even a little bit jealous of the people that have their husbands home, in fact I am so happy for them to have this time together, especially knowing that the majority of my military friends will not have their husbands home next year, and I will get to be the one to be a shoulder to lean on for support, so that I can pay it forward what has been done for me with kind words and friendship. I also try to just remember that A Christmas with Brandon in afghanistan, is better than a Christmas with anyone other than him. My husband truly is a hero. As much as I have conflicting feelings about this war, its really pacifying to hear him talk about building schools and teaching the ANA new and useful things, because knowing he is proud of the job he is doing, makes me feel like we are doing this for something, and it also makes me that much more proud to be his wife. My daughters have a father that will do anything for their happiness, and I have a husband that loves me unconditionally despite time and distance. Its hard to be away from him at a time when I really wish he were here to celebrate with us, but I just have to continue to take this one day at a time and know that God will bring him home to us, so we can be complete again. I am so thankful for the family and friends that I have in my life that are there spiritually and emotionally for my girls and me. Its refreshing to know that if I have an off day people will help us through. I would love to have been able to bring my girls to see their extended families for the holidays, but I am still glad that through the distance everyone is reaching out to us and making sure that we know that we're in their thoughts. Its Christmas time, and although my husband is far away, we still have much to be thankful for. God is good, and I am truly blessed.

not to exceed 365 days, or until mission completed.

This whole deployment thing has really tested my patience, my strength, and my emotions, but it has never once tested my love, or my feelings for my husband, neither will it do so, or my faithfulness. I hear a lot of stories about women that are bitter and spiteful towards their husbands because they feel like the left them. These soldiers leave because their orders say to, not because they are climbing over one another trying to race to the front of the line to be deployed. Some guys live for the front line, but I am willing to bet that 9 times out of 10 these guys only turn that on when they are gone. For the most part, they want to be home with their families, watching their kids grow, keeping their wives up at night or finding themselves late for P.T. courtesy of you. We will never know what its like to be in Afghanistan, and they will never know what its like to be at home with 1,2,3, or more kids alone, trying to make the day work, trying to keep it together when we feel like falling apart, trying to be "Army Strong" for our soldiers. But we couldn't know the feeling of seeing a humvee come back with damage from barely missing an IED, or having to put someones boots with their weapon and id tags, and be sad that that person is gone but glad that its not us. We have to be weary of one another's feelings. I hate the saying "don't sweat the small stuff", because really we should be. Have you ever seen a snowball? It starts our small, but if you roll more stuff up into it it gets so big that pretty soon you can't control it anymore. SO sweat the small stuff, if you need something from him tell him, don't NAG him, because chances are he is so caught up in staying safe that he isn't even noticing what you're upset about. Plus, no one can read a mind, especially over facebook or skype, so tell him. And if he needs something from you, do it. I mean really, is he asking too much if he asks you to stay in most nights because he needs to know your safe? My husband is out there putting his own LIFE on the line for me, that is a sacrifice that hardly anyone is willing to make. Its a damn shame if I'm not willing to do the things he asks me to do so that he is comfortable over there and able to keep his mind on what needs to be done to come home safe to me and our babies. Whats a year without barhopping every weekend, and sleeping with the kids, in return for a long happy life together. Brandon said it best before he left. If we can take advantage of all that they offer families during deployment, be able to communicate better than any other couple, and then spend the next 100 years not having to be apart again, whats one year? Its long, its tough, but its not going to take the love I have for my husband down even a little bit, in fact, I think I'll love him more, if its even possible. In the word's of my main man Usher, " i feel like it's our first time everytime we get together, baby loving you feels better than everything, anything. Put on my heart you don't need a ring, and i promise our time away won't change my love."

the worst day ever.

Yesterday was quite possibly, the worst day of my life. I had to drop Brandon off at his company, so that he can leave us for a year to go to Afghanistan. It took all the strength I had in my mind, body and soul to take him there, kiss him goodbye, and leave. Gabrielle was upset because she knows that when daddy packs up all of his bags it means that he is getting ready to be gone for longer than just a CQ shift. Dru, she has no idea what is going on yet, because she is still s young. I dont know how to think or act. Its like some one took the sun out of my solar system. My head is stuffy and heavy from  crying so many tears and I just want to stay in bed, or have some one put my life on fast forward until he gets home. But I can't do that. I have my babies to look after, so hen I want to fall apart I can't because it would scare them. I can't just hit the FF button either because for one, its not real, and for two, who would be there to take the photos and videos of all that he is going to miss over the next 12 months? I have never had so many irrational thoughts in one 24 hour period either. I don't want to wash his clothes or the sheets because it will take his smell out of them, I don't want to wash the dishes that he made our last breakfast together, I don't want to mop the boot marks off of our floor because that shows me he was here. Irrational? maybe. But  I need to be able to feel him even if he is gone, I need to know that he is real, and that he is coming back to me. I have never felt pain like what I felt last night to step into my house and know that he won't be back until leave time comes around. I can't help but be mad about leave either. Two weeks? you're telling me that for two weeks I get to see my husband, and thats all for a whole year? Its a joke. Telling women and children to be Army Strong is just an excuse that the army makes to help themselves sleep at night knowing that they are tearing a family apart for a year and expecting them to put the pieces of their lives back together after their faith, hope and love have been beaten into submission. Yet I know that we will prevail in this, just like we have every other obstacle that has been thrown our way. This is one of those, God isn't stopping the storm, so he is being my umbrella situations. I wish I was as strong as Brandon, he knows that everything is going to be ok, he just knows it, not only that but he believes in me and thinks that I can be strong enough to make it through this. I don't know how I got so lucky to have some one that makes me so complete, and that makes me stronger and better, but I am holding on with him with both hands, for always. This is going to be the hardest year of my life. I am hoping that through the pain and fear, our love will grow even stronger, that we will grow closer through the distance, that our family can thrive where others fail. God give me the strength, and bring my husband home safe and happy where he belongs. Sooner, rather than later.